Things that are NOT ruining your marriage

I've been married for a lot of years.  So many years that I admit that I frequently forget exactly how many.  I often have to look at the embroidered wall sign my sister made for us to remember the exact date we tied the knot.  We've been married long enough that taking out the trash is a romantic gesture and I am perfectly happy to get appliances for Christmas.  Nothing says true love like a toaster oven, right? I have learned, over the years, that marriage is a shit ton of work.  If you think marriage is hearts and flowers and batting your eyelashes at each other and waking up to phenomenal morning sex you are either delusional or still on your honeymoon.  A successful marriage requires you to work your ass off on so many levels it is like an Olympic sport.  So, when I see things … [Read more...]